THE NEED FOR HEALING

We’ve all been hurt at sometime in our lives.  The hurts we experience may be small, garden-variety challenges or the thunderously big bombshell types that throw our world into chaos.  However the hurt occurred and for whatever reason, it hurts, and it will continue to hurt unless we find a way to heal the wound that remains, sometimes long after the event occurred.

When we are wounded physically, emotionally or mentally, the harm that happened affects the way we think, behave and feel, and that harm goes on to tarnish our relationships, our abilities, our view of other people and our successes in life.

The need for healing is evidenced in the way we deal with hurtful situations.  Some may be able to discuss the matter and put it to rest, letting it disintegrate and disappear.  For others, it may not be so easy; their hurts and wounds may be stored away as a seed that germinates and grows somewhere deep inside.  That seed is then carried everywhere and as it insidiously continues to grow inside it affects other relationships. This can become a life long method of coping with hurtful situations.

It is possible for emotional wounds to lead to a constant source of inner pain.  Emotional scars don’t necessarily go away with time.  They may go “underground” or disappear for awhile, until triggered by a sight, sound, event or something familiar that causes the memory, emotion or the painful feelings to suddenly resurface or open up, just like picking at a scab causes an injury to bleed and weep again.

Healing is essential if we don’t want to remain stuck in the wounded places we have been.  But it is important to understand that we cannot heal from things we do not acknowledge.

When we identify, touch and express stored up feelings, we acknowledge their existence.  Admitting that stored up feelings exist is a powerful step in the healing process. Confessing the presence of those feelings releases the feeling, bringing healing and profound relief.

Hiding or ignoring them on the other hand only causes them to continue to grow internally.

Healing an emotional wound is similar to healing a physical wound.  An untreated physical wound may fester and become infected and painful.  The infection spreads to other tissue, contaminating the surrounding area, creating swelling, pain, redness and an elevated temperature.  Unless the infected tissue is cleaned out, treated with an antibiotic and allowed to heal, it can infect the rest of that limb or even other parts of the body.

An untreated emotional wound can yield feelings of anger, depression, hopelessness, sadness and insecurity.  Unless we find a way to heal our emotional wounds, they can contaminate every aspect of our life-how we relate to others and how we view the world.

Some may be carrying a load of shame, regret or self-loathing for what happened.  That type of internal pain must also be acknowledged and expressed.

We must allow ourselves the opportunity and the freedom to express the emotions, frustrations, disappointments, fears and sadness along with the pain we feel as a result of the hurt we’ve experienced.  If we don’t allow ourselves that opportunity, the pain becomes worse and we become more engulfed in the toxicity of our emotions.  We circle round and round in the anger, fear, regret, resentment, bitterness and hatred, becoming stuck and mired deeper and deeper in the quick sand of our own painful experiences.

A crucial step in getting out of the quicksand before becoming totally engulfed is to identify what you’ve lost as a result of the emotional injury.  Did you lose friends, family, relationships, trust, reputation, finances, security, position, stature or love, just to name a few?

It is important to allow yourself to grieve what you lost.  Grieving can be done in solitude, through writing, singing, and prayer or shared with others whom you trust.  Expressing and grieving the losses can bring much needed release and relief from constant inner pain.

The book FORGIVENESS: The Mystery and Miracle, provides an opportunity for the reader to see inside some very difficult times the author and others have experienced as well as some times of miraculous healing. 

The gripping story in each chapter is combined with a personal application for the reader.  The application transitions to a method of exploration that creates a way for the reader to reflect on their own personal circumstances in a way that gently assists them in taking important steps in their own healing journey.

A graphic Healing Process™ diagram aids the reader in identifying their personal progress along the healing path that leads toward freedom and peace.

FORGIVENESS: The Mystery and Miracle is creating healing miracles in the lives of its readers.

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